@AdopteeAdvocate hmmmz not sure it's really possible. Well not for me anyway! I found my birth mother after 41 years back in 2016, and connected in a way that I never have been able to with my adopted mother. I hate what happened, I hate how it made me feel and the damage it did. Most of all I hate the fact I wasn't able to be there for my big sister when she needed me most. All because of this damn adoption. BUT she is my mother and I just can't break the connection now it formed.